Hi, all. I'm new here, so please bear with me My concern is a woman who took me under her wing when my mom passed away and we've become very close. Compared to other stories I've read, she's doing great, aside from mostly mobility issues. She had an episode over a year ago while visiting her daughter many states away in Florida that forced her into rehab for months. She's back at home now, but she is still not fully researching where to go "later." She uses a walker and can only reach the top 2 shelves of the fridge and only the left side. As I've been reading this message board, I've learned that some assisted living places (where she thinks she's going to go), do not even allow microwaves or toaster ovens. She's wary of microwaves but is very dependent upon her toaster oven - so if Assisted Living says no, she'll be in quite a quandary. She also has issues with her legs, which required wound care and, again based of what I've read here, that's not what most Assisted Living services provide. I spoke to her a few days ago about this - just so she's aware and she essentially shut me down. She moved from her house of 50+ years a few yeas ago into the apartment where she is now and that was very traumatic for her. I'd hate for her to move into an Assisted Living facility only to shortly find out that will not address her needs and then she'll have to move again. Plus, she's an Orthodox Jew, so there are dietary requirements to be considered. There is a Jewish "old folks home," but they want almost 5k a month for basic amenities. So she balks at that.
Since she came back from Florida (where she was in rehab), I've been trying to hint for her to fully examine her options so she is ready and knows what to expect, rather than fall and then get dumped in the nearest available place.
She is so sweet and so kind and she's also typically very savvy - so I don't know why she won't even entertain the thought of looking into facilities besides the basic costs per month. Advice greatly appreciated.