Since I brought my mom home from the hospital Sept. 12th, I've observed her having countless crying spells. Unless she is engaged in conversation with me or engrossed in a television show, she is weeping. Hearing her do this (and it is nearly constant) is affecting my own proclivity for depression. Mom has always suffered from mental disorders (bi-polar, ocd, depression), and is medicated for them (she takes fluoxetine, trazodone, diazepam, and perphenazine.) This particular depressive episode has been stubborn and resistant to medication.
A couple of nights ago, mom started in with the crying thing. As I usually do, I asked, "What's wrong? Why are you crying?"
She took me by surprise with her answer.
She said, "I'm afraid of dying."
I'm at a loss. I have the same fear. This is a fear that is recent for me, and one that has kept me awake at night.
My mom is deeply Catholic, and because of her steadfast devotion to the church, I never thought a fear like this could possibly exist in her.
I can handle the medical side of her depression, but how do I address this?
What can I say to comfort her and make her feel better about a subject like that? I could really use any help or advice you can offer. (It would help both my mom ...AND me. )