My sister has been caring for our mom for a year. My sister has lung cancer and can no longer care for our mom. We moved mom into an ALF a week ago. She is out of control with anger. She bangs her walker and screams profanity at us and her caregivers. She refuses to go to the dining room to eat. She told me to leave and never come back. All she wants is to go home.
We are heart broken and don't know what to do. Will she adjust over time? The Director has asked us to not visit for a while so maybe mom will adjust.
Can anyone offer advice or hope that my mom will adjust?
She cannot live at home alone. She cannot prepare food and will not bathe. She has lost short term memory and cannot remember her husband passed away over a year ago. She ask us at least 30 maybe 50 times a time where her husband is!
Help! We are so upset.