i am a newbie to all this, but it looks like I am about to have my mother somewhere nearby. Her doctor has not diagnosed her with anything, but my brother has been caring for her and when she visited me last year, it was clear that she has many, many of the signs of dementia. Recently, even her doctor acknoweldged real trouble when her bloodwork indicated her meds are really out of whack. SO, she will be coming here, one way or another, and I don't have a clue where to begin. My husband says that she can't come here unless she goes to some kind of assisted living, but my mother absolutely refuses.
I could rent her a small home near where I live, but I have to be honest--there is no way I can stop in daily, or spend most/all of my weekends with her, both logistically (my job involves lots of travel) and emotionally --I'm one of those that loves her, but doesn't like her.
So, I guess I would like some feedback as to how do I know what is the right choice for her? How do I know what my own limits are?
How do I know I will survive this!!!