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He so angry all the time. Everything upsets him. I walk on eggshells most of the day.

He needs meds to calm him. Talk to his medical team to find out what's available, and good luck.
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Tlynnhill: Prayers forthcoming. I'm so sorry. Try medications.
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We may only guess what he is like with more details about your experience.

I have a story to share:
My late foster mother had a severe stroke and heart attack at age 72 because she was obese and had unmanaged diet for her type II diabetes for years. She kept her judgement but required assisted living that lasted five years before she died at age 77 from an additional heart attack.
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He may not be the same man he was. It is dependent on whether this is a mental and emotional shock he can recover from as he adapts to changes or whether this is actual injury to the brain in a certain front center or lower center that controls emotional responses. This may be something you cannot KNOW without the passage of time, and your best person to talk with is the neurologist who can explain what centers in his brain are affected by his particular injury. I wish you both the best.
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You don't give us much to go on here, but I can only imagine that he is very angry about all that he has lost because of the stroke. Strokes can be very life changing and a hard pill to swallow for those who have had one, especially if things don't return to what they once were.
My late husband had a massive stroke at the age of 48 which left him paralyzed on his right side, unable to walk, talk, read or write. And he was a workaholic before his stroke. Do you think he was angry in the beginning? Yes, very, as his whole world had been turned upside down and he was now having to relearn how to walk and talk best he could. And it was many many months of very hard work for him. He never could read or write or even talk very much again, but over time he adjusted best he could to his "new normal."
So maybe that is where your husband is now...trying to adjust to his new normal. So give him time, but also make sure that his doctor has him on an anti-depressant as that should help some.
And over time my husband did calm down and for the most part remained his sweet loving self until his death in 2020.
I wish you well as you walk this difficult road with your husband.
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This is a very broad question. Without more info it is difficult to give an answer. Actually a guess would be more like it as I doubt even the doctors could truly honestly answer that.
Now I have never had a stroke, and God willing I will never experience one..
I would have to say that you go through the same process that you go through with any major, life altering diagnosis. the "stages" you hear so much about.
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
DEPRESSION
Acceptance

this is something to discuss with his doctors and maybe a referral to a therapist.
You do not give any other info as to his age nor the severity of the stroke.
All I can say is there is a good possibility this is the tip of the iceberg and you may also be dealing now with Vascular dementia. The damage that has been done is permanent, other strokes will compound damage.
You have to decide how you are going to move forward IF he does not improve or declines more.
Make sure all you "legal ducks are in a row".
If he is a Veteran get connected with the VA, determine what if any benefits he and you may be entitled to. (contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission they can help determine if he is entitled to any benefits.)
Also make sure YOUR doctor is aware of what is going on. Your stress will effect you and your health. If you need to seek out a therapist to talk to as well.
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How old is he?

When did he have the stroke?

Is he on meds for anything, like depression, anxiety, agitation? If not, why not?

We can't really answer your question without more context and details.
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