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She knows to sit on the toilet, but often catches her poop in her hand, or fishes it out of the toilet and puts it in the sink. Not sure I can handle this.

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I understand. It is what I would do. She'll have people who work in shifts in a facility, so they will be more fresh. You'll still be there with her when you visit, but will be able to enjoy your time more.
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I am the OP. This symptom is telling me that caring for her is getting beyond what I can do. She requires 24x7 supervision, which we take care of between a live-in caregiver and me. But considering all the other symptoms I didn't mention, it is about time to move her.
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andrew, an option you may want to look into is placing your wife in a care facility. There are some things we can't go through. If it reaches that point, don't feel guilting in reaching out for some help. The poop issue is one of the hardest to deal with with disabled or elderly people.
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Yes you are a saint! I don't have any suggestions but wanted to give you an "atta boy!" for your commitment to your wife. It's so sad to see the deterioration from dementia.
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cwillie's right. The time has come to monitor her while she's using the bathroom. You can buy flushable wipes. That will makes things a tad easier.

If either you or she are uncomfortable with you in the bathroom while she's going keep some Windex or something under the sink and some towels and while she's going to the bathroom tidy up the sink, the bowl, etc. It's less intrusive for her if you're doing something other than standing there watching her.
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You are a Saint , Andrew. I couldn't do it.
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You are going to have to be with her whenever she is in the bathroom, it may help if you routinely take her in after meals to use the toilet, wash up and brush her teeth. Flush before she gets up, and if you handle the wiping too it will be less mess in the long run. The idea of toileting someone else is difficult, but if you get some disposable gloves and wet wipes to make the job easier it will soon become routine.
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