Three times in the last 7 months, my dad's 84 y/o wife has not taken him to the doc or urgent care for medical treatment when ill. She waits anywhere from 4-5 days to get him in for meds. In September, she went out of town with family members & left him alone for the weekend with no prepared food for him to fix, nor did she call to check on him. She did not alert us she was going away. When he told us about it, we drove two hours to stay with him. She's been asking (and receiving) from dad extra money each month since her 55 y/o prescription-addicted son moved in with them three years ago. Dad hates that the son is living there with them but since his wife owns the home, he doesn't believe he has the right to ask her to make the son leave. Dad's wife keeps us away by saying her calendar is full. This has been going on throughout the 12 years of their marriage. Dad is 96 & his health is fading fast. She has now become his caregiver. She intimates everyone by her b*tchiness, and if someone does something to make her angry, she retaliates. It's a scary situation. Does any of this fall under the auspice of elder abuse? And if so, what can the authorities do without taking the chance of her retaliating by treating him worse?