So Grandma was getting up and going to the bathroom just fine until about two weeks into physical therapy. This was also around the time that she developed a UTI. It was treated, but a culture was never done so I don't know if it was cleared up. It was difficult enough trying to figure out what was even going on with her. Are there any reasons anyone can think of why Grandma is just sitting in her recliner peeing in her pullup diaper instead of just getting up and going to the bathroom? Tonight, she called me into the bathroom at bedtime to help pull up her diaper and pants. I noticed right away that her diaper was very wet. I asked her if it needed changing and she said it was only a little wet. It was clearly droopy indicating there was at least 12 oz. of pee in there, maybe more. I kept looking at it and she was getting huffy stating that it didn't need changing. I was already irritated and tired so I let it go, although I did tell her she just doesn't want to change it. So now this means she'll wet the bed because the diaper will leak overnight. Thankfully I do use two different layers of pee pads. I feel like I need to start being more strict with her. I feel like giving her the following choice: Either she stops peeing in the diaper and gets up and goes to the bathroom when she needs to or instead of making her get up every two hours to go (as recommended by urologist), I'll make her get up every hour (physical therapist recommended that anyway). What do you all think? I'm just tired of this. I feel like she thinks I'm her slave. I'm tired of this crap! Either she needs to stop this crap or she can go back to assisted living. I'm not even getting paid for this, although that might help. I had no idea she would go downhill so fast after moving in with me. I suspect this is all dementia related, I just don't understand how the peeing is connected to the physical therapy and dementia.