DH took 91 year old MIL to dr for first time since pandemic, and I was thinking they would test her for dementia but they didn't - all it says is 'memory issues probably due to small vessel disease'. I guess based on an earlier CT scan from 3 years ago where there was some 'white matter atrophy' or some such.
She has an abdominal aneurysm, a hernia and some kidney cysts that they are doing an abdominal CT scan next week since the last one was in 2019. But no dementia question test or nothing. She had UTI but MIL didn't have any symptoms and the treatment didn't help her memory issues or sundowning fears as we hoped it would.
She has declined since the pandemic, she was late on her bills in January so we took them over, got the POAs and everything. She cannot remember who anyone is or to take her vitamins or her antibiotics last week without prompting. She has a horrible time at sunset, obsessed with neighbors and took a fall trying to go over to see if they were home one evening, my son, 24, lives with her since that. He will be going back to college (hopefully) in August tho (late bloomer), so I was hoping for a diagnosis since to a large degree my DH and family are in a strange sort of denial, it's not complete denial but they just don't have any sense of urgency about her living arrangements. My son is the one who volunteered to go since it was just blank stares between DH and his sister. We also have companion visiting two evenings a week for a couple of months now and MIL thinks she is family, but I don't think it's realistic to pay for more or for 24/7 companion when there are nice facilities nearby.
Why wouldn't they give her the test and diagnosis? DH thinks the Dr. is more concerned with the other issues or maybe at her age they just feel memory issues are normal? Is a diagnosis even needed if we had to place her?