A parent has a legal responsibility to the care and safety of their children. As far as I know, there are no laws obligating an adult to their parents. I'm not mean and cold-hearted. Search my posts and you'll see how I was verbally and emotionally robbed of 45 years of my life, with the message engrained into my brain since preteen, "Make your mother happy" Not the joke telling kind of happy... the "if you leave her side who will take care of all her emotional neediness? If you cut the cord she'll fall into a depression" kinda happy.
That message was verbally and emotionally abusive, from my pansy father. I'm 60 and haven't had a days rest from her incessant needs, and her narcissism. Where is it written that I have to have her in my life forever, until one of us kicks the bucket? It's written in Webster's dictionary under the word guilt. The feeling of guilt is to keep us in check, not enslaved. I just wish I had fled when I turned 18 like my siblings who had enough. To those of you with abusive parents, the reason you're being victimized is simply because of unwarranted guilt, like I had till a few days ago. By the grace of God I woke up.
Don't let your religion weigh on your decision either. Don't be guilted into sacrificing your mental health for anyone. If you do, then you are continuing the cycle of abuse because no doubt you, your spouse and children are suffering to. Don't put off the decision to take care of yourself for your and your families sake as I did. Looking back on all the tears I shed, the joyful events I turned down because I was feeling so low, the times I was short with my children and neglected my husband... I have overwhelming regret. These types of parents are a cancer that spreads throughout. Be strong, get them out of your house now. You wouldn't let anyone hurt your spouse or children! Wake up! Your declining mental health is hurting your loved ones too.