I tried encouraging, praising , reasoning, talking to her. I mean I tried everything and nothing seems too work. It can be pretty fusterating. Need help, advice.
Showering is not essential for staying clean. When the Romans left Britain, it was another 1500 years before anyone could again shower under falling warm water. They could still smell the scents of flowers, as their poetry records.
I’ve recently had two short periods without a shower. Three days in the truck meant I just ignored the issue. Then three days with a defunct hot water service meant I boiled a kettle, and washed (armpits and crutch) with a cloth in a bowl. I was pleased to get back to a shower (and the computer) this morning. DH said his parents were brought up with a Saturday night bath (all the family in turn), and bowl washes through the week. People in NHs may not shower at all, depending on physical difficulties, but they still keep clean.
If you have to give up on the shower, how could you set up the bathroom to make an alternative work for you and your client? It could be better than stressing out on one particular way to wash!
Interesting you mentioned this, a lady at the facility had a "bed bath". Suffice it to say, there was a lot of yelling from the resident with most phrase "Leave me alone"
Because she has dementia and it's no longer about reason and logic and having empathy for you or others. Now her brain is broken and you will need different strategies.
I’ve recently had two short periods without a shower. Three days in the truck meant I just ignored the issue. Then three days with a defunct hot water service meant I boiled a kettle, and washed (armpits and crutch) with a cloth in a bowl. I was pleased to get back to a shower (and the computer) this morning. DH said his parents were brought up with a Saturday night bath (all the family in turn), and bowl washes through the week. People in NHs may not shower at all, depending on physical difficulties, but they still keep clean.
If you have to give up on the shower, how could you set up the bathroom to make an alternative work for you and your client? It could be better than stressing out on one particular way to wash!
Install grab bars. Place a chair in the shower as well.
Good luck!
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-help-with-bathing-and-personal-hygiene-top-tips-from-caregivers-212010.htm