My mum is 85 years old. We tried to look after her at home but found she kept on getting infections, I started to search for a nursing homes and found a really good home, after all the conflict with family and no one bothering to call the ambulance, I was looking after her my days and noticed she was really confused and her breathing was really bad. I called the ambulance and they took her straight to the hospital. From there after a week she was transferred to the nursing home. She wasn’t happy for about 3 days but now she seems okay, but she had stopped speaking and I’m really worried. I am happy she’s eating now but she does not mention going home at all and it makes me feel very guilty every time I leave her. She has Alzheimer's and I’m not well enough to put my 2 days in during the day and my brother sleeping there 5 nights a week from 5 pm but complaining about it everyday and telling me he does the most after I organise all the help.This situation has divided the family and my brother is now very happy that she is in a nursing home, but she has stopped speaking and just nods yes or no. My question is why has she stopped speaking and looks really depressed and blank? I’m too scared to take her out for a day in case she says she wants to go home. How long should I wait before I take her out for a day? And we have to sell the family home so we could give the deposit to the nursing home. My mum lost her partner last year who was very sick and I got all the help for him and now my mum for around 7 years. I would appreciate any help.