My mother is 75 yrs old. She has always taken things that were mine since I was a teenager. Of course, I didn't know it was her until I had to move back home in my 20's. Now, with my dad gone and I am back home she has gotten worse. She does have early or medium dementia. My therapist says she takes my things because she likes them, but that doesn't make any sense to me. She has taken one of my dad's shirts that she gave me when he passed away and it happened shortly after I moved in, however, when I had a fit about it the shirt ended up reappearing. The same thing happen with my arm brace. It came up missing and I had a fit and it reappeared. Since than she has taken my eye brow pencil, 2 pairs of high heels (which she can't or ever could wear), my curling iron, my business bag. I had a fit about these things but I have never gotten them back! She is the only one who could do it because only she and my BF are in the house. My BF of going on 17 yrs has not nor would he ever do anythings like this.
Just this past week, I had a top sheet and a pillow case come up missing. I had a fit and told her that I no longer can live this way and that she will have to move to a AL and my BF and I would move out and sell the house to help pay for her care. As if by magic the sheet and pillow case showed back up right where I looked for it. The other things are probably in her room! I don't believe she takes my things because she likes them and if it was dementia making her do it she wouldn't return them. But like I said, she has always taken my things. (It was never this bad). She even takes my cat's toys!
Here is my question, is she doing it out of spite, or is she trying to drive me crazy? Or is it just passive aggressive behavior? She still can do something for herself like using the bathroom, cook simple things, bath, but now I take care of her finances.
Remind you when I moved back home I didn't know she had dementia, nor did I know just how bad she had it in for me!
Thank you for any opinions.