Lately my mother who I believe is at the end stages of dementia keeps asking me constantly why I hate her and why I am mad at her. I try to explain that I am not mad at her and then she calls me a liar and says I'm full of sh*t. This abuse is so hard to deal with but I understand she cannot remember anything let alone grasp anything I tell her. What can I say to her to make her believe I am not mad at her nor do I hate her? No matter what I say she believe I am lying or trying to cover something up.
Hear & understand the TONE of your voice.
See & understand your facial expressions & body language.
You can only tell the truth and hope.
If there's any dementia, then you understand that someone with a brain that isn't functioning cannot understand much of anything at all.
Also in dementia, a common thing is paranoia.
I think I must have already suggested to you, Roger, that you begin to watch some Teepa Snow videos. Have you done so? It will greatly help you understand a failing mind. Just google her. You will find lots of stuff.
You might want to try smiling more around her and being more upbeat.
You have to keep telling yourself that it is the disease talking and not your mother, and quit taking things so personal.
I truly hope that you're educating yourself more about the horrific disease of dementia, as that will help you better understand what your mother with her broken brain is going through.
When I am feeling sad , just in general I want more love from my husband. And I know when he is sick he wants more love and affection
If this is a sudden change in her mental state, get her tested for a UTI, which can cause behavioral disturbances in the elderly.