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This doesn't happen when my other siblings visit her. Why me?? I am getting paranoid over the situation. Please help.

It could be alliance that she fainted as you visited to see her or may be you were the last person she expected and she was shocked to see you...
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cwillie thank you, you got it!!! I didn't want to think it but yes she is manipulative and I honestly think she is faking it as it happens only when she is sitting down. I do visit the most but have cut down & taken a step back as she is very demanding also. It seems she is fine when siblings visit but always complain she has been feeling unwell when I go but carers tell me with a smile that she has been fine as I always talk to them before I see mom. Its a real eye opener for me it is the first time I have had to deal with old age and all it entails, sadly my dad died young, it seems to me the good go first sadly. Thank you for listening and taking the time to reply.
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Unless she falling to the floor I think you have done all you can to get to the bottom of it, if staff is keeping an eye on it and isn't concerned then I think you need to just watch and see if this resolves itself. Is she manipulative, could she be faking it?
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Do you perhaps visit more often than your sibs? That would give you a better chance at catching one of the "funny turns."

Are you sure she doesn't faint after sibs leave? How do they know? You know because staff tell you. Do your sibs have that kind of relationship with staff?

It is good you have had this checked out medically.
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Firstly, no we don't argue, no I do not bring food in, no I do not say anything to upset her & no I don't stay too long. CH staff say she has "funny turns" now & then but they ae not concerned as they say mom is an attention seeker and this is part of it. Doctors cannot find anything to cause the fainting either all my siblings say when they visit that she is fine so it must be something I am doing but cannot think what!
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My dad had a series of fainting episodes after eating. Are you bringing her food? I was told his blood pressure medicine was too strong and BP lowers even more while eating, causing Dad to faint.
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Without knowing what you do or talk about during these visits, it’s impossible to say. Do you notify the nursing staff that Mom is losing consciousness? If not, you need to. That’s not normal. Something about your visit may raise her blood pressure for reasons unknown to us. Do you argue with her? She with you? Have you always had a difficult relationship with her? Something about your visits must be causing her anxiety level to rise, but without more information, it’s impossible to say.
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You must have some inkling of the cause -do you stay too long? discuss things that cause her to get upset? bring in treats she'd be better off without?

What are the staff at the care home telling you?
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