My grandma is so mean and cruel to me and only me not my brother and sister! She’s called me a b*tch and yells at me everyday and when she’s mad she takes it out on me and she wonders why I’m mad at her!
I’m so sorry. You don’t deserve being called ugly names by your grandma. Are you caring for her? Please give more details so we can help further.
I know there aren’t supposed to be favorites among grandkids but I have seen it over and over. I don’t have grandkids but I would like to think I would love them all the same.
Does you grandma have ALZ or another issue that may be the cause of this? Can you walk away when she starts being mean to you? Do you have any idea why she does this? If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you.
I hope your situation improves. Take care and hugs!
If your grandma has dementia, she is not being cruel to you. The part of her brain that understands relationships between people may be damaged too much for her to remember you and how much she loved you. It is not at all unusual for people who have dementia to focus negative comments and reactions on someone whom they previous to their illness, loved dearly. Educate yourself about dementia and symptoms of it.
You can stop being mad at her when you learn and accept the fact that an illness is causing her to say unkind things and yelling at you. She doesn’t know what she’s doing and doesn’t mean to hurt you or be unkind to you. Her “filter” doesn’t stop her from saying unexpected things.
When you are able to stay calm and ignore her strange behavior instead of reacting to it, you will be giving her the wonderful gift of her grand daughter’s compassion and understanding.
Hard to say, maybe you remind her of someone else in the family who either treated her badly, disappointed her in some lasting or perceived way, perhaps someone she was jealous of as a child even, maybe her mother or sister or your mother? It probably isn't really about you at all and if she has dementia of any sort she may very well be living in the past somewhere and she isn't even thinking of you as you, her grand daughter. This doesn't make it any less wrong and you shouldn't be going through this or feeling this way but maybe it will help a little to consider that perhaps you either look or have the mannerisms of some other ancestor.
What do your siblings, parents or other relatives say about it? I sure hope you will talk to someone you are close with who is also close to the situation about the way you are feeling, they might be able to either help deflect some of your grandmothers treatment or shed some light on it for you.
I know there aren’t supposed to be favorites among grandkids but I have seen it over and over. I don’t have grandkids but I would like to think I would love them all the same.
Does you grandma have ALZ or another issue that may be the cause of this? Can you walk away when she starts being mean to you? Do you have any idea why she does this? If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you.
I hope your situation improves. Take care and hugs!
The part of her brain that understands relationships between people may be damaged too much for her to remember you and how much she loved you.
It is not at all unusual for people who have dementia to focus negative comments and reactions on someone whom they previous to their illness, loved dearly.
Educate yourself about dementia and symptoms of it.
You can stop being mad at her when you learn and accept the fact that an illness is causing her to say unkind things and yelling at you. She doesn’t know what she’s doing and doesn’t mean to hurt you or be unkind to you. Her “filter” doesn’t stop her from saying unexpected things.
When you are able to stay calm and ignore her strange behavior instead of reacting to it, you will be giving her the wonderful gift of her grand daughter’s compassion and understanding.
What do your siblings, parents or other relatives say about it? I sure hope you will talk to someone you are close with who is also close to the situation about the way you are feeling, they might be able to either help deflect some of your grandmothers treatment or shed some light on it for you.