Follow
Share

I read peoples comments about the narcissism, but I need to know why mom says these hurtful things. No one believes them and you know soon I would be accused of stealing, but the other things she says, when all I do is help her and keep her company, I don't understand. I'm not yet in counseling and mom is set for neuro appt, but I now moved in to be with her 24/7 and mom says she says these things to get off her chest and not fester. I always told mom I would tell her the truth and not lie to her, am I doing the right thing?

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Yes, it's part of the dead but it still hurts. Especially out f three living children it's always been me. I never learned how to let it just go. I would say it wasn't that way, not a good thing to say. Just upset Mom more. Just try to go with it.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Laura, sadly some of those who have memory issues will go through a stage of telling false stories... it is not uncommon. As Barb had mentioned above, it is best to just go along with the stories then try to correct your Mom.

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-handle-alzheimers-disease-lying-144204.htm
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Laura, has your mother been diagnosed with dementia, or is that what the neuro appointment is about?

If your mom has dementia, you have to think of her saying false things about you, not as lying, but as her broken brain trying to make sense of things.

A really simple example is "the food is burned. I don't remember burning it. Laura is here. She must have burned It! Laura, you're so careless! Why did you burn my food? We can't afford to waste food!"

The understanding response to this is not I didn't burn the food, you did" which will only turn to a shouting match. Rather " oh mom, I'm so sorry the food burned. Here I'll clean that up. Don't worry, there is plenty more I can make."

There is a great woman named Teepa Snow who has some videos online with more of these ideas. You can google them.
Helpful Answer (4)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.