I have taken care of Mom for 16 years. Mom is now 91 & her health, for the past 3 years, has been declining. My sister(works full time) has been wonderful, filling in when I am unable(I work per diem 2 12 hour shifts/wk). 2 brothers, are another story. I have always kept them informed re:Mom regularly, yet they remain uncaring & unavailable , but when Mom is hospitalized, which is more frequently now, they & their wives are all over me with their "Why didn't you do this?" Yadda,Yadda, Yadda,questions. I have answered their questions patiently & have politely told them all along " if they can do a better job than me, then by all means, take over".I'm 63 now& tired.