My ex called today asking me if I would bring him something to settle his stomach. He said his bp was 168/117 and he was dizzy when he laid down and had nausea. I told him he needed to go to er and get bp meds. He refuses to go because "I'd rather die than keep doing this." I told him that it was his own problem for being stupid and allowing his mother to dictate life and to just shove her in a home and be done with it. Why do people feel the need to continue on caregiving when they cant do it on their own anymore? And why would you wish for death rather than just saying no i am not doing this anymore? And no its not an attention ploy. His blood pressure was high before but is higher now...he just doesnt believe in medication.