My beautiful mum was 94 years young and had Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer's. I lived with her and she was diagnosed around ten years ago. She still knew her family and friends. She had a great life. I took her out DAILY for lunch, she went to my twin brother's house every Saturday to spend time with him, his wife and their three children. She loved us all so so much.
One night I made her potatoe hash at her request. She wasn't keen on eating but I made her eat some as she hadn't had much that day and hash is fairly easy to eat. She ate some, I always fed her but was sick straight after. It seemed to ease off and I put her to bed. I tidied up then went up to bed myself. I always slept in her room to make sure she was ok. When I went upstairs, she had been sick again and was breathing a little funny. I asked her if she was ok and she said yes. Her breathing didn't sound right so I took her to A&E. The doctor said her chest sounded ok but she suddenly started to gasp for breath. They nebulised her and within minutes she looked panicked. She grabbed my hand and said "I love you so much Michelle" I said I loved her too and she closed her eyes. The doctors kept doing blood gas tests and chest x-rays but they refused to believe she was choking. After 5 hours she suddenly lost all colour in her face and died. We were all devastated. She might have been 94 but she was very strong. A year before she died she fell whilst I was in the bathroom upstairs and she broke her femur, just above her knee. She had an operation to pin and plate this. I took her home six days later and she learned to walk again with a frame. She could have had the food sucked out of her throats but they refused, saying she wouldn't cope. We felt helpless and hopeless. It is almost a year ago now but I am still devastated and want her back. Why did they say she was too old to treat? I live in the UK.