Is it mostly for financial reasons? Should we all work together to make sure elderly get good care in these facilities? I have told my children that should I become abusive to them or uncooperative in their efforts to help me as I age, they are to have me move to a facility because at present, in my right mind, I am convinced they deserve better than that. Would your parents want you to to suffer so much for them. I read a lot of suffering on this site.