This is the question I need answered most. Why do my feelings and needs not count? My mother is living in my home with my husband and me. She needs EVERY meal fixed, laundry done, bathing assistance, help walking from room to room, multiple rides to dr. appts, wound bandage changes, commode emptying. I'm in the process of setting up CDPAP and have a friend who is a home health aid and is willing to help. "But why do you need help?, are you saying that I'm a burden? I knew you would say that." "You can leave the house any time you want." (Yes if it is important and then only for a couple hrs at most between meals.) No more weekend getaways or real vacations. She lived as a hermit, so I guess why would she think that I need time outside the home. I actually have a few friends and like to do things.
She lays in bed 20 hrs a day, comes out for meals and evenings to watch TV with us.
She ignores health problems until they become a crisis, is abnormally afraid of Drs. and treatments. Which is why she is like she is.
I am setting things up, physical therapy, CDPAP and encouraging exercise, so maybe just maybe I won't feel resentful that my life has been overtaken and I can go out without feeling guilty.
She balks at everything cuz if its not her idea its not necessary. And then my heart rate goes out of control.
Sorry for the rant.