I was taking care of my mother's Dr. appointments but after two years I really needed help and a break which I never got and was never offered it. I have a brother and a sister in the same area as myself. They have happily sat back and allowed me to take charge. Now, when I need some reprieve, they're agitated. They feel my mother is faking her illnesses, think she is lazy and that my father coddles her so she doesn't have to lift a finger. She has many issues, yet the doctors can find nothing wrong with her. A new thing lately is that my father says she is throwing up 2-3 times per week and doesn't know why. She's been to the Dr. before on this issue and it always points to dehydration. He states she eats very little yet she is not losing weight. It is frustrating I know but now that my two siblings are involved they are making matters worse for my parents. Although my father is a caregiver to my mother, I feel I am a caregiver to him (support system) you might say. My sister called a meeting together with both my parents present. In fact, she got my mother out of bed to hear the entire conversation. I felt sorry for my mother that she sat there and had to listen to my two siblings saying that the doctors can find nothing wrong with her, saying they want off the merry go round and that they want final answers (a second opinion I guess). So when a well known clinic in Santa Barbara was brought into the discussion for a second opinion, my brother's wife who was there and along with my brother said they didn't agree with it. They feel that it's just more doctors and doctor appointments to contend with. I feel terrible about the whole situation because the meeting was more of a debate rather than a true loving and caring discussion on what we should do. My parents sat there listening and not saying much. This discussion should have never taken place in front of them I believe. I've been trying to detach personally because I need a break yet now I'm not sure if I should just ask my family to bow out and allow me to take over again. I'm available to help with appointments if they need me to but I just don't want all of them. It's their parents too and my opinion is that they should want to help simply because of that. I'm at my wits end!