My mom is a great actress. If you talk to her for 10 mins she's normal, but once you've known her for several months you'll learn that she has no grasp on the severity of her disability, she has no idea how bad she is at managing finances, and she will say one thing today and the opposite tomorrow. Doctors say she's a liar, I say she's the definition of deluded.
Her nurses just think she's stubborn and mean. I think she has alcohol related brain damage and general neurological decline from her stroke 10 years ago.
Why won't someone listen when I say that these behaviors ARE NOT NORMAL???
She currently calls me crying saying how she has to leave the nursing home and how she's going to start a business again and take care of my dad and take HIM out of his nursing home, then she posts on Facebook telling everyone this.
She cannot walk, she cannot feed herself right, she hasn't managed finances in 5 years, my dad is in a nursing home because she couldn't take care of him, and she hasn't run a business since her stroke. She is absolutely delusional about all of this.
If she leaves the nursing home, she will be entering an incredibly uncertain and hard and scary future ultimately probably ending back up in a nursing home more broke than before.
This cannot happen. I am her healthcare POA but I don't think it matters if she's still competent. I refuse to deal with her behavior anymore if no doctor will take me seriously.