Hi everyone.. been awhile since I posted, but I do read this blog faithfully every day. Just a refresher. Last year was the year from hell!! Had to get an elder attorney to prove my case as mom's primary caregiver in order to keep the house. Well thank God everything worked out well and in my favor!! So I get to keep the house, Medicaid cannot touch it, and mom was approved for managed long term care Medicaid. So what could be the problem??? Well my parents NEVER had any money and I really resented it. So I took care of dad when he was sick, no LTC facilities incolved, but he and mom hated each other by then!! He passed 23 yrs ago. Now mom spent my money to fix the whole house up, to the tune of 65 grand so losing it was not an option. Thank God I didn’t but paid an elder care attorney 13 grand, again my money. So FF a year. Mom in LTC facility and adjusted quite well. I’m a nurse and work 2 jobs. Alot of the times 12 day stretches. My family is a disaster and I’m the only one that visits her. No one else and she never had friends. I manage to visit twice a week. Plus I still need to have my own life. Mom told me a PT passed a comment that why do I never take her out for a day or two. Really??!!! Why do people have to pass comments when they don’t know a situation??? Thanks for listening. I needed to vent I guess.
If the PT did say it, she was out of line and I would confront either her or her supervisor about it.
You know whats weird about having to go thrubwhat u did to keep Moms house, is that I just got papers to fill out for a lean to be put on Moms house. I read that if a family member was a resident of the Medicaid recipients house and both claimed it as their main residence, a lean would be put on the house but not be recouped until the family member died or sold the house. So if thats true, why did you have to fight that hard.
Glad it all worked out.
As far as the comment from your mother....I'd perhaps wonder if she just said that and that no one else said it. That would be my suspicion. I wouldn't think that a staff member or therapist suggested that a patient with all her issues be taken out of the facility for the weekend. If they did make such a comment, I would wonder about their mind. Who would be so foolish? It might have been something that your mother may want, and not realize the enormity of a task like that. I would dismiss it. You are fine and don't need any undue pressure.