My husband and I visited a few Assisted Living facilities (that will accept Medicaid) in hopes of finding a safe place for his mom. She is 65 y/o type 2 insulin dependent diabetic with stage 4 vascular dementia. I was very surprised by the horrible condition of the residents. First of all I saw absolutely no one under age 80. Secondly, all the residents were sitting in the lobby, hall, dining room etc... in wheelchairs with their heads hanging down just staring at the floor. They all looked drugged. None of the people I saw looked like they could even feed themselves. Third, the whole place had a nursing home feel. They didn't have apartments of their own, they were piled two people to a tiny room with no kitchen. The staff were completely ignoring the residents. The memory care "wing" was freakin terrifying. It was like a gated prison. When I asked how the memory care residents got out to go to activities or the dining room. She said "oh, they don't go out, they eat here" (pointing to the 15x15 beige room full of tables with a 12" tv up in the corner. And of course all the people were asleep, or staring at the wall. Is this what Assisted Living is supposed to be like? I always had this picture in my head of elderly people playing bingo, shuffle board, reading, knitting and doing water aerobics in the pool. I realize there are different stages of dementia and that my MIL will be In that condition one day but right now she's not. Where are all the people like her? Where do all the 40,50 & 60 somethings with physical or cognitive problems go? She can still take care of herself she just needs "assistance" with her meds twice a day, blood glucose testing and insulin injections 4 times a day, healthy meals on a set schedule and other people close to her age to interact with and repeat her stories to. Isn't that what assisted living should be?