My dad has been in the nursing home for a month and seems to be adjusting quite well. He is gaining weight and looks good. My dad has late stage dementia and communication has gotten difficult. He looks like he wants to talk, but can't get the words together. I'm the one that feels abandoned! After living with my dad for 2 1/2 years, 24/7, I'm feeling cut off from his new life. I am the widowed, only child and I work Monday - Friday. I try to get there several times a week. Sometimes my visits seem to upset him and he thinks of excuses for me to leave. I went one evening and he was getting ready for bed and was asleep by the time I got into his room. I ask his techs & nurses how he's doing and they say he's doing great, going to some activities... Is there one person I can contact and ask how he's doing? If he needs anything? I feel like there should be some sort of a handbook for the caregivers: Now That Your Loved One is in a Nursing Home and let us know what they want us to do.