Up until yesterday. I thought my 93-year-old father was quite sharp for someone his age. He lives in the Independent Living area of a facility. He listens to the radio & watches TV, keeps up with major current events & has maintained a dry sense of humor. Also neither my brother or my husband have noticed any changes in him. Recently, some repairs/adjustments were made to his apartment which had been requested months ago. When his bathroom vent fan was taken out in preparation for a modification, he told me that "the guy came in, took it out & said nothing", meaning he was not told why the fan was taken out, what would happen next, etc. However, during a spontaneous conversation with the director, I was told that dad WAS given a detailed explanation.
I also handle his pillbox, which lights up when it's time to take a particular med. I was told that housekeeping has found pills in his linen when doing the laundry. Dad has always been particular about his med regimen. I briefly discussed these things with him & he insists that no one gave him any info about the fan. He also said he takes his meds when the pillbox lights up. These are just a couple of examples that I've been told that are very disturbing, if true. I even asked the director if he had him confused with someone else! I spoke to the head nurse who is concerned especially about the meds. I requested that she set up a cognitive eval for him.
My concern is: who is telling the truth? As a retired RN, I'd like to think I would see these kind of changes myself. How do I tell him about the cognitive eval without scaring him? How should I proceed otherwise? I'm not sure who to believe.