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By lacking do you mean which one is not in touch with reality. You are both in touch it is just a different reality. Have you spent time in the room when these visitors appear? If so do you notice anything? a cool breeze whiff of smoke, a perfume, a chair that feels cold when you sit on it? Do you feel as though someone is watching you? People who are sensitive to other worldly perceptions can often feel these things. It doesn't matter if you can't these senses just have not had a chance to develop in you.
Bottom line perfectly normal or abnormal whicever way you want to look at it
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Lacking, hmm, from a personal viewpoint taking care of my bil , I'm the one lacking-- imagination and I might even say creativity. His visitors always are quite interesting and at times I'm sorry I missed out on their visit. One night an old fellow came into his room and said," Hey come on get with the game" my bil had a big smile telling the story. Only wish it could be possible for him to take that advice, then reality hits.he'll never be in the game again. I agree about sundowning and in this case waking from dreams, but I've noticed it's getting less and less as his dementia progresses. Been fortunate that his unique visitors have never been anything but friendly.
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I assume you meant this as a philosophical question?
If you believe that these apparitions are visitors from beyond the veil and you and your loved one take comfort from them then great! If, on the other hand, your loved one finds them frightening and they cause anxiety and confusion then a good doctor can help with that.
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"Evening visitors" - sounds like sundowning. Dementia often comes with a set of symptoms called "sundowning" - a sharp uptick in unusual behavior that occurs as night approaches (hence the name "sundowning") and can last a few hours or all night long. They may see things, hear things, start wandering or trying to escape the house/facility they're in, or doing things totally out of character. They won't remember doing any of it in the morning, so asking them why they were doing it or what they were seeing/hearing won't be effective at all - they won't be able to answer you, and you'll likely just confuse them by asking.

As mentioned above, neither of you is lacking - you just need to understand the dynamics of what's happening with them.
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I don't know what you mean by "lacking."

A person who has dementia often has hallucinations and/or delusions and sees persons or objects that no one else can see.

Do you have a specific caregiving concern about this?
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Neither lacking. Each Just in a different space in time.
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