Mom (94, with dementia) has been in the nursing home six months now. Mom is family-oriented and hasn't had many friends of her own -- Dad was the social one. She went with her sister on a bus to play bingo once in a while, but she never went downstairs in her subsidized housing building to play bingo "with those old people." She has never been interested in crafts in her life. She hasn't been to church in at least 50 years. She is a very nice person, loves a good joke, is not demanding or critical. But we expected her to sit in her room and watch television.
She goes to any event the aides invite her to, and the nh has LOTS of events. She goes to bingo, entertainment, crafts, gardening, baking, and even Bible study.
Who is this woman?
My sisters and I think that along with other lost memories she no longer remembers that she is shy in groups of strangers, she doesn't like associating with old people, and she hates crafts.
Has anyone else had a loved one at a care center replaced by a content impostor? Do you know how this is done? We'd love to be able to replace Mom's roommate with a happier impostor. Poor lady never leaves the room (which is what we expected of our mother).