My mother cannot be left alone and requires someone to be with her at all times. She has moderate dementia that is progressing and is on two medications. Her memory lasts about 10 to 15 minutes. Her medication is locked up in my bedroom because she tries to self medicate. I basically do everything for her but she is able to bathe herself and take care of personal hygiene, she just doesn't want to. I take care of the house, inside and outside. I take care of all finances and have for many years. I am Durable Power of Attorney over Finances and Healthcare. I was told by two doctors that she should probably be put into a NH but I got her medication and am able to care for her at home. She reads the newspaper over and over, sleeps and watches TV during the day but does nothing else anymore.
When is a person considered to be a "caregiver" and are there any Legal or otherwise specifics that qualify a person as a "caregiver" or the patient as needing a "caregiver?"
In an argument with a sibling they told me that I was not a "caregiver" (I would really like to know what I do all day long then!) and made a weird statement that our mother didn't really need one, although two doctors have recommended her being placed in a NH and having a medic alert bracelet in case she wanders off.
Would I be considered to be her caregiver, knowing these facts or should I obtain documentation from her doctors that she requires one and I am it.
Said sibling is a very hateful and nasty person and is angry that I hold DPOA and not her. There is no telling what she will do, nothing is beneath her she has even filed a false police report against me in the past. She has a mental problem that needs to be addressed but she never stays with a therapist if they do not agree with her. When I took DPOA she was robbing my mother's account for her own personal gain.
She works part time and doesn't come home until 4 hours later so she doesn't have to do anything to help out. Now she is ticked that I am leaving on the weekend and tells me that I must ask her if I can leave, she has no responsibility to take care of our mother. I told her that everyone gets a day off and since she takes five days to do whatever she wants, the weekends are mine. She says NO WAY! She has no outside life, no friends, her children have moved away and shunned her because of her horrible attitude.
What do I do?