I'm asking this because after six days in the hospital for severe chronic osteomyelitis, I finally met with the infectious disease doctor in charge of dads care. He told me that there was no chance to cure the infection without surgery,which my 90 year old dad was not a candidate for. He suggested hospice. After watching dad in severe pain and having delusions, I agreed. They moved quickly and got dad transferred to a hospice facility. I'm conflicted, because I do not have health care POA unless dad is incompetent. He was competent right up until he went to the hospital. He doesn't even know he's in hospice care. He may become more coherent now that he's out of the hospital and in a quiet environment. In fact, I was told that he had a full nights sleep, which he hasn't had for over a week. So, when and how do I tell him where he is? And doesn't he have the right to make his own choice if he regains his mental faculties? Honestly, I don't think I could go on that journey with him, if he decided to fight for his life. My tank is already on empty- but, I'm feeling anxious that I might have made a decision that wasn't mine to make.