Who do I call here in California if my dad dies at home not under hospice care?

For lack of a better analogy, my dad is like an elderly pet, requires assistance with some aspects of daily living, (meals, some mobility) takes a couple of maintenance meds (thyroid, heart), but still enjoys life. He doesn't need oxygen, or a hospital bed, help with toileting, special diet, etc.
I don't understand what service Hospice would provide, other than being on-call for pronouncing his death.
Please enlighten me.

Ricky something else to think about. Does your city or county have crime watch or neighborhood watch Facebook groups? Or Facebook pages run by people who post police, fire and ambulance scanner traffic? Consider this......social media has turned us in to nosy neighbors. People see an ambulance at the neighbors house and go to their local Facebook group or page to find out what is going on. I personally find it intrusive. If I or my family member has a medical emergency, it is nobody’s business what happened. So consider this......should your dad pass at home without being on hospice, you will have the police, fire dept and paramedics at your house. Do you want the neighborhood or nosy passerby’s who want to know what happened, posting a picture of all the action on Facebook? Because that happens where I live frequently. And I personally would not be happy if that happened to me or my family. Would you want to open Facebook and see that reminder?

If your dad goes on hospice, which would be palliative care at this point, no one will know if and when he passes. The mortuary isn’t going to roll up to the house with a hearse. When my MIL passed, they came in a minivan that was backed in to the garage. Totally discreet and dignified.

Ricky, I think you said several times that you don't see the advantage of having hospice on board, but the big advantage is that there won't be any investigation of his death at home if he's a patient on hospice, even if hospice is only providing palliative (comfort, not treatment) care services.

It was great for mthr to have hospice to call first when she fell instead of rushing to the ER to see if she had a brain bleed. If we made the decision to keep her home on our own, and she had the brain bleed and died in her bed, then there would have been an examination, head trauma would have been noticed, an autopsy performed, and then an investigation into why she was not taken in (negligence on caregivers) or was there elder abuse (active abuse). Neither of those are what you want to face when you are grieving a loved one and want to get everything tied up.

Hospices can provide palliative care as well which has a cost - it is my understanding that Medicare covers hospice 100% but not palliative care. With hospice someone has to be at home with the patient at all times, but with palliative care, the rule differ.

Ricky, they don't provide medical services per see, they offer support and oversight of the decline. So you can be assured that he will not get any pain meds daily, but you will have them in the refrigerator for the time he may need them.

He could be eligible for hospice or not, Medicare covers this service 100%. So he would not have any fees.

Can I recommend interviewing several hospice providers and find one that fits your needs and has a business model that you like, they are not all created equal. If you hire one and you decide that they are not a good fit, you can fire them and bring a different one in.

They helped all of us when my 52 year old sister was dying of cancer and refused any treatment. They helped us understand what was going on, what would most likely happen next and they treated her painful bedsores so she didn't suffer from those. She couldn't move because her back was broken from the cancer eating her spine away. I have been told that they are a sign of impending death and that they are painful when untreated.

I hope you find the perfect solution to your situation.

I had a coworker whose mother had advanced alzheimer's and was living at home with her husband. She had a catastrophic stroke or heart attack and "died" at home, but because nothing was in place EMS revived her on the way to the hospital and she lingered another couple of weeks. That spurred me to make sure I had all the documents in place, with mom's DNR prominently displayed on the fridge door.

My father died in his bed in California while not on hospice, and everything happened exactly as Cali says. Police, fire dept., and ambulance all came; ambulance whisked my dad off to the closest ER; and my mom had to answer the questions from the police. My dad was pronounced at the hospital. Had my dad been on hospice, the whole experience would have been less traumatic for my mom.

I am in California and you have to call 911 if he is not on hospice. They will send the police, fire dept and ambulance. You cannot call the family doctor and then the morgue. So I would suggest putting him on hospice that way if he gets his wish, all you have to do is call hospice and once the nurse comes out to pronounce the death, you can have the mortuary come out.

I would get him set up with hospice. He can have his wish of being home and dying in bed. They don't force you into a facility.

If you die in my state, not under hospice or a physician's care, it is an unattended death and there is an investigation. That can be simple, but they are always looking to determine if foul play was involved, so it could be unpleasant to go through at the same time as losing your dad.

Hospice will keep him comfortable and pain free, they can help bathe him, change his bedding and it is a phone call when he passes.

You need to be considered in this situation as well, hopefully you can convince him that you need him to be on hospice.

When my mom was seriously ill before she went in to hospice, I asked her doctor what to do if she died at home and was told to call 911. Once you explain the situation to the dispatch operator they will decide which first responders to send and the police if needed. Since your dad does have a DNR make sure you have that ready to show the emergency team or they are obligated to begin life saving treatment (at the ER as well).

I'm in PA so maybe CA is different; now is a good time for you to call your dad's doctor and ask them exactly what you should do.

While not in California (Maryland), my mom's doctor said you don't have to call 911. Call the family doctor - making sure he has a copy of the DNR and MOLST form in chart - and then you can just call the funeral home. Ask the family doctor what to do in that case, as I'm sure all states are different.

I don't know about California but here it would be investigated by police as an unexplained death in the home, avoiding that is one of the benefits of being enrolled in Hospice. Is there a reason your father isn't with a Hospice provider? You don't have to accept their full services, just having the paperwork and a nurse on call if needed would be valuable for you.