I need help. This woman is out of control. She is simply toxic and abusive to the point where I cannot cope with life. I have enough issues and obstacles to deal with besides her negative attitude and demeaning treatment. I have literally not one person on this earth who helps me with my life. I have three pet pets that I care for who seem to always need something. I have made self-care a priority as someone who suffers depression. It is extremely important to shower every day, so I make sure that I always do. Aside from the normal every day chores like laundry, making meals, cleaning the house, vacuuming food, shopping, walking the dog twice a day changing the sheets once a week. Socializing or talking on the phone. Paying bills. Job hunting. Car shopping. I have literally no ability to manage stress and therefore avoid any negative interaction.. my mother knows exactly what illness I suffer from which causes severe reoccurring, depression and anxiety, and now I have PTSD also. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for the past three years and now I can’t focus on anything concentrate or complete a task in one sitting. She has absolutely no compassion, consideration, caring or concern for my well-being. I don’t understand at all how I came from this person. Literally everyone in my family seems to be a narcissist, and I am the empath. It seems that I am cursed because I have the worst luck and everything bad that happens to me is unwarranted unfair and unacceptable. There is absolutely nothing I can do about this woman berating me on a daily basis. She does absolutely nothing to help me with my struggles in life. She won’t even lift a finger to put a dish or a spoon in the dishwasher that I used. It will just sit there till I do it. I help her out in every which way I am physically able. She does nothing but criticize me assume the worst of me doesn’t trust me and has no faith in my abilities or potential to succeed in life.. I like I said have zero help or support in life and all she does is make my life worse, harder…. unbearable. Please someone tell me where I can turn for help with this witch. I can’t put up with it another day. No one can talk to me that way I don’t care who you are. She doesn’t show me any respect as a human let alone a grown-up and her freaking daughter. I did nothing to her to deserve this. It seems like she is just taking out her anger on me. She can’t stand if I am happy, smiling laughing, enjoying life feeling joy. It must eat away at her that she is so miserable. She wants everyone else around her to be miserable as well apparently. I think she needs meds therapy and probably some sort of a weekly visit from a nurse if nothing else. It’s not OK the way she treats me. If she doesn’t have any sort of care or concern or love for me, then she needs to treat me like a stranger. And I don’t think she would berate a total stranger in public. So what makes her think that I deserve to be treated like a pile of poop? It’s just not acceptable. It’s not OK for anyone to be mean to anyone let alone her abusing me who already has struggles in life and needs support.Please don’t respond unless you have a phone number of someone who will help me that I can call right now.
You have asked that we not respond if we don't have a phone number.
But you wrote us. So you will be responded to by those of us who think we might have good advice for you to consider. You certain can just kick that advice to the curb.
The only phone number I have really is the national 988 number for those who feel hopeless and who are despairing. You can call that number any time of the day or night.
I have here, also, a question for you.
You have described an abusive relationship that is causing you pain, and worsening mental health issues you suffer from.
You describe a recent ending of an abusive relationship from which I would imagine you are still grieving and reeling.
My questions are:
1. Are you currently dependent on your mother?
2. Have you chosen for now to live with your mother?
If you are, I can't see a way for you to be helped. What you really need now is either disability or a job, and a peaceful place for yourself and you beloved pets, so that you can heal. If mom requires some help and you wish to do laundry and cleaning, then really she should be paying you for this help, and you should have your own place, even if it is a rented room in a stranger's home, to retreat to.
I wish you luck. Check your local council on aging if mom needs help you can't provide, or APS. Be certain not to take on POA for her. That's too difficult now in your current fragility.
I am so very sorry that things are so tough. It sounds like you just stood under a veritable CLOUDBURST of despair. I hope venting it a bit and some deep breaths will get you thinking about solid steps forward, one at a time, to get you onto solid ground where you have some peace.
So I will just say, move out ASAP even if you have to go to a homeless shelter, and call APS on the way out if you're at all concerned about her living by herself.
Then block her number and get on with living and enjoying your life.
And you can call 211 to see what resources are available to help you get out and with your mental health.
NO ONE should ever live in such a toxic environment, so I do hope you'll move out soon.
Good luck.
Oh and move out so you aren't living with this person you call witch.