First time posting here! such great resource here.
So my stepdad who is 85 has fallen for so many scams. i dont live with them so i didn't really get to see how serious these all were until i had a look myself. omg. he has so many used up reloadable debit cards and gift cards laying around his house and just recently he took out a good amount of money from my mom and his' joint bank account without my mom's permission cuz he's convinced he won 5 million dollars and gave that money to these scammers. he also responds to junk mails that asks for his bank/cc info. he gets LOOOTS of scam calls and what's sad is he even seems to enjoy talking to them no matter how much i tell him to not engage because they're all scams.
I certainly don't trust him anymore with their bills. my mom has always been so dependent on the men in her life, including my stepdad. but i don't think he should be in charge with handling the bills anymore, had to help my mom set up online accounts for their bills so everything is online and paperless.
I want my mom to get POA. but I am not sure how to go about this.
Do I get a diagnosis for him first before getting the POA? or do i get the POA first and then get him evaluated for dementia?
I hear other people saying to get the dementia evaluation done first and get the POA after but the thing is i thought, you can only get POA if the person is still okay and their mental capacity is still there?
I really want my mom to get poa while he is still in the early stages because truthfully other than the scams, he's still okay.
My stepdad hasn't gone in yet for an evaluation, that's another hurdle for us, actually telling him we want him to get tested, he might get upset :C
Anyway, what would you recommend doing first? the evaluation or the POA?