67 year old mother has terminal cancer, on last chemo. My brother and I visit daily to check on and give any help we can. Mums husband is a functioning alcoholic which is very played down by both. Mum is frail from cancer but husband manages to shop and do meals but then drinks vodka rest of day. Mum has fallen over recently herself but husband is also falling from being drunk, sometimes reaching out to support himself on mum who's sat down. She recently fell out of her chair trying to stop him falling as he walked past her. I know he needs help but he won't comply as they both just want to be left alone don't think mum realises how dangerous this is to them both. They feel like they are being nagged by us. Mum has a macmillan nurse but does not use any services available. I don't even know what they can do to help. I think mum puts off asking as her illness will be more real to her once she needs help. What can be done to help that's not too invasive. Mum and her partner are adamant t they don't need home carers. But I know mum probably has not bathed properly in months. She lies to keep the peace and won't let us help her more than take her to appointments and pick them up off the floor when they fall. He always says he doesn't need an abulance when he falls as it's just his dodgy knee. Although it's probably the drink he's ashamed off. I don't want to call an ambulance when he falls drunk if he is actually physically ok. Don't want to waste time but maybe then he can get some help. Just don't know what to do.. He won't stop drinking so nothing will change. Are we really resigned to wanting to give our mum care with having to worry about his drunkeness increasing her stress and safety. He is not aggressive or loud.. just in a stupor which gets worse until bedtime when mum has to help him get undressed and worry about him falling. Mum was walking well until she fell out of a chair breaking his fall as he walked past her.