1st option is cheaper.
I have my own health issues and am finding my Moms needs growing all the time. She refuses to do anything, even though she is capable. Her feeling is that she should be taken care of. I have hired part time caretakers and she goes to an Adult day program 2 days a week but it still is too much for me. I find myself pissed off and resentful because of her attitude and because I get zero helps from my siblings or their families. She does have mild dementia but she knows what she is doing. She does only what she wants and blatantly refuses to do small tasks I leave for her. She says, I forgot. I told her today that she better step up to reality and help out or I would get full time care for her and she would deal only with them. I feel mean but, it is affecting my health and the time and energy for myself and my husband. He is a real good guy who does alot for my Mom and he deserves a wife who is not irritated all the time. So, should I keep her here with full time help or to assisted living/or memory unit. The former is cheaper.