Which is better, care provided in a facility or in-home care?

I have used numerous agencies and no matter how good a reputation, they are all the same. It's pretty hit or miss. I've also tried hiring on my own but references are very hard to check. My experience is about the same as Katie Kay.

I didn't see your post Jazzy...I can so relate!!

I was asking Jazzy ,, but thank you Katiekay ,, all this is good to know .. it makes me stronger in my resolve.

didgens.. are you asking me? In my case.. yes.. Licensed agencies.. and I have used 2 agencies.

out of curiosity ,, where these people hired from a licensed agency ?

In my experience, I have not had good experiences with in home caregivers. I have been having caregivers in increasing hours for my parents over the last year.

I have caregivers at night and during the day. In the best case they get to work on time, barely do what is required of them., keep my parents from leaving or burning the place down....

The night caregivers have been caught literally making themselves a bed on my parents couch complete with putting their bare feet on the couch (ewww). Both of my parents have dementia and could wake up confused and possible leave the apartment. .. since the caregiver just slept through her shift.

As for the day caregiver.. what I wanted is someone who can do some very basic cooking and who can provide companionship and get them out.. take them out to walk, let them sit out in the main areas in the apartment complex..etc. What I got.... people who cannot even cook the most basic meals, who sit and text and who look over them like prison guards and barely have conversation with them.

My parents have dementia but are mobile and don't require incontinence care .. but do need some overseeing. I don't know if it is just their specific situation that they aren't good at handling...

Whatever the case.. I am so over the caregivers.. texting me all the time.. asking for time off , can they leave early, my dad said this or my mom said that .. etc etc.

On top of all that .. they can get extremely expensive.. even with me taking one shift every day. Even with the caregivers, I am still very involved, can't even take one day off or away. I am currently looking at memory cares for my parents .. I need to have some rest.

ok ,, thank you Jazzy2 ,, that really helps me more solidly think my dad really needs AL now..

Not at all Didgens. I've had credit cards stolen, lazy people on their cell and don't even look up when he walks in the room, his incontinence goes unnoticed and, the last straw, the last one just walked out and left him alone. I have cameras in the home so I pretty much know what goes on.

I know this is off topic .. but can you tell me why the in home caregivers were a nightmare ?? we are trying this out right now ,, but I fear AL is coming soon.

You need the break and it sounds like he is enjoying it. My aunt has Parkinsons and her daughter takes her regularly to a gym to box. It really helps her.
Like you said this could go on a long time. Pace yourself.