Many of you have seen my posts and the dynamic with my brother and SIL. In a nutshell, things have gotten to the point they have cut off communication totally with me after getting my 90 yo extremely ill mom to revoke my POA. I have done NOTHING wrong but stand up to them and was also prepared to step back anyway. I am not a vengeful person and just wanted to have discussion.
Fast forward a few days ago when mom fell at the rehab facility and was found minimally responsive and taken to the ER, intubated/ventilated then extubated after 24 hrs in ICU. They never contacted me that she was basically at death’s door. I found out by literal accident after I happened to call the facility. It was later found her shoulder blade was broken. The xray said she had osteoporosis so not surprised she had a fracture. Her mental status finally improved after a couple of days where she could recognize me and my husband.
My brother and SIL have been keeping vigil. But I’ve gone in anyway and my husband always accompanies me now. I’ve gone 3 out of 4 days she’s been there. The ICU nurses have been lovely to me and when I call have given me status updates plus I had previously signed up (thank goodness) to view the hospital system portal. Her medical diagnoses are: acute on chronic CHF, hypoxic respiratory failure, asthma, pneumonia, elevated tropinin, pleural effusion. That’s A LOT wrong in my book.
As she is completely bedridden and now w broken right shoulder blade and broken/healing rt hip, I don’t see how she can even do rehab of much consequence. If it were up to me she would have hospice involved. But it’s not. They wouldn’t even discuss before. I feel pretty certain they aren’t going to tell me where she goes after hospital at least based on past experience. But it’s also obvious I haven’t gone away.
I don’t see how they could possibly take her home in this condition even if they were willing to care for her. Hopefully the nurses will be able to tell me where she goes after this.
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