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My husbands grandmother was living with his mom and she was taking care of her. She is 82 and has possibly been diagnosed with Dementia but we are unable to find any paperwork confirming this. His mom got sick and passed away at the beginning of the month leaving his grandmother with no supervision. He has a POA over his grandmother and we are trying to pick up the pieces of the puzzle and are at a loss. We have located a nursing home that is 5 minutes away and feel like this is the move we need to make to ensure that she has the care she needs. He drives a truck and is not home during the week and I work full time and tend to our kids and am not able to be here with her 24/7. We are receiving different stories, some saying we cannot put her in a home if she does not want to go unless we go to court and file for guardianship, others are saying with a durable POA we can make this decision. We have taken her to a doctor to make sure that we know all problems she has and tend to that, as for the dementia we will have to have tests run. We want to make the right decisions for her and make sure she is well taken care of and just need some guidance at this point.

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If she can get around in a walker and does not poop her pants, she could move to Assisted Living. Ask the new MD if he thinks this would be a proper setting for her. She would love all the company and activities.
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According to his mom before she passed the doctor had stated she could not live alone and needed full time supervision. We had to find a new MD as the one she was previously using apparently moves a lot and has since moved from the location we knew of. The new MD is starting her evaluations and pulling what records she is able to get now so we will have to wait and see where that leads. We believe she is still in early stages of Dementia. She is able to feed herself, go to the bathroom (sometimes there are accidents). She cannot cook as she forgets to turn the stove off at times. She does have arthritis in her feet and legs so that creates a problem with bathing and walking safely. In all she is healthy other than aging and the possible Dementia. Any advice or people to talk to is greatly appreciated. This has all been very overwhelming and happened so quickly.
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True, she cannot be forced to go unless you are the Guardian, which requires a petition to Family Court. You need to know if Grandma's MD will support your petition. Does the MD agree that she is incompetent? Has a neurologist or psychiatrist diagnosed incapacity? Can she feed herself, bathe herself and toilet independently? What are her limitations?
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