Caregiver went bad. My cousin was my Aunt's caregiver. My cousin is now in Jail for battery towards my Aunt. Who would ever thought a family member would hurt another family member. To me it's the unthinkable. But, it's true. It took me a long time to accept the fact my Cousin hurt our Aunt. Because, of my Aunt's dementia I thought my Aunt was making false statesments towards my Cousin. Until I sat down with my Aunt to talk to her about this. I learned from my Aunt this isn't the first time my Cousin beat her up. My Aunt said to me that the first time she got beat up she never told anyone about it. I was sad & shocked to hear this. Because, of my Aunt's dementia I still had my doubts if this was true. It's hard to take in. Until I talked to the dective in charge of the case. The detective told me there is no denial your Cousin beat her up. Fresh bruses was found on your Aunt and photos was taking of them. My Aunt is 88 yrs old. Who would ever think of beating up a 88 yrs old elderly person is beyond me. We trust our own family members so this kind of stuff don't happen. If you can't trust your own who can you trust anymore?This world is crazy.
I stepped in as my Aunt's caregiver because, she had no one else welling to step up to this plate. All the other family members are afraid to help my Aunt. Afraid if they do attempt to help her they will be the next to go to jail. My Aunt wanted to change her living Will. So, I took her to do so. Even my Aunt's attorney asked me "Do you realize what your getting your self into?" I replied to the attorney stating there's knowone else but, me welling to help her. So, as of date I am her Druable POA & Caregiver. As stepping into this I learned of many problems my Cousin caused. She was out to put my Aunt into a nurcing home as fast as she can is what I learned. The Cousin was selling items and had my Aunt's house for sale. She also, found my Aunt's living Will, House Deed, life insurance ect. My Aunt kept all of this paper work in a small box for safe keeping. My Cousin took the box. The box can't be found. Now I'm starting from scratch so to speak without any help for this. My Aunt don't remember what life insurance company she has. And who knows what all was in her box.
Where to start?