Where to look for someone to give mom a shower at home?

oh, and do ask around. We found the most fantastic aide for Mom just by asking around. She was by Mom's side for 6 1/2 years until Mom pass 2 months ago.

My DIL is a CNA in a rehab/NH. She was approached by the son of a former patient to bathe his mom 2x/wk for $25 each time. Win-win for both of them. Perhaps asking an aide you are comfortable with to do it. On the QT of course.

I bought an electric tub chair for Mom. It has been a big help. It cost me $400 (though some places have them for $700...).

Sounds like you need to put her in a nursing home since you can't handle bathing your own mom--just wait until she starts pooping in her pants -- she will require a LOT of showers to do a thorough cleaning (otherwise she can get urinary tract infections because stool gets up her private parts). I'm sorry for sounding blunt but it's the truth. When they start pooping in their pants somebody has to clean her and it sounds like you can't do that since you can't even shower her. Seriously get a social worker and put her in a nursing home. Unless you are very rich and can afford to keep around-the-clock workers in her/your home. Caregiving is VERY labor intensive, hard work and you hire people do not expect them to work for free. So get over your aversions and learn to bath her yourself or put her in a nursing home. If you have just a bathtub then you need to spend about $10,000 to get it ripped out and get a walk-in shower instead with metal grab bars installed properly ...been there, done that.  I spend about $100 a month on diapers, gloves, TONS of baby wipes, and ointments for butt care. Diapers are about 50-cents a piece and she goes through about 3 to 5 a day. Yes after she poops you have to clean her up. Alzheimer's is so bad, even when I put her on the toilet she gets preoccupied trying to grab everything around her she forgets to go to the bathroom, will refuse to go in the toilet and later go in her pants. So welcome to the world of caregiving. *My life savings is rapidly getting depleted because it costs me a fortune to take care of her* not to mention I can no longer work since she is a full-time job as she require 24-hour supervision and care. And the government is not going to help at all..unless you impound them in a nursing home after putting them on Medicaid. If she has assets you need to see an eldercare attorney and discuss spending all her monies on her care.  Needless to say since I'm not making money and spending my own money it is going to impact my own old age so I will become a burden to society when it is time for my old age because I literally scarified my life for my mom. I'll be homeless or end up in a nursing home. Oh well. Maybe the way things are going WW 3 will happen soon.  So it's a moot point.

you can try to enroll her in medicaid & when you go to fill paper work out ask them about it have to go to a welfare office or google to apply for medicaid that might help to get you to the right place ..but when you get medicaid then you can have a caregiver come out for 4 hours a day for a week & ask them to give her a shower let them know what your needs are they will tell you to what they can offer

corrina - CL stands for Craigslist :-)

Corinna, in this context I think CL stands for Craigslist. If you are unfamiliar, it is a website for free classified ads.

The care available varies widely by area, but you might contact your Area Agency on Aging. There is a place here called NEMO(NorthEast Missouri) Senior Services. They provide us with a personal aide for 3 hours a week and only ask for a donation of $4.50/hour. She is not CNA but she can help with bathing and light house work. She's not qualified to do anything medical, but she is bonded and background checked.
The director told me that the program is partially covered by a grant from the Agency on Aging. That's why they only ask for a small donation. I feel really fortunate to have this available. Hopefully you will be able to find a similar program in your area.

barbbrooklyn’s response.  needto, bathing is an activity of daily living and if she can’t do it by herself I would talk to her doctor’s office again. Try to keep the language more general, she needs support taking care of her health needs.  The doc should be able to prescribe home nursing visits (which are quite short, I think about 45 mins.).  First you could call some of the agencies that are nursing only, not CNA, and ask for advice as to whether and how they get assigned through Medicare.  The ones I called for advice were all really willing to provide guidance.  Good luck!

my oldest sister does my mom ..i even did her but she is kinda worse now ..i am sure you have a family member that is female & would be able to do it .. if you have to offer them less than 100 $ that is to much maybe even a neighbor to my mom had me take her to buy a shower chair you can get that to at a handicap store or medical supply store ..it you are like us & got a small tube then take measurements before you go ..

Is there a reason you don’t bathe Her ? Is it a tub, shower ?
Is there a safety concern. Grab bars, chair non slip surfaces ?
There are 100$ reasons to do it yourself, self respect, closeness, and you get to know what’s going on on the body, sores, rashes, you never know what. Plus an intimacy, you can clean and massage necks, rub feet and check nails. Trim them, all soft an clean. Shampoos are very relaxing, take your time. There’s no shame in love.

I too am interested in this. What does CL stand for?

Thanks for the responses. Unfortunately, she doesn't have a medical need so medicare will not pay for it.

I'll try calling daycare and hospice places.

Ask mom's doctor if he will script a "bath aide", i.e, someone to come to the home to assist her with showers.

https://www.medicareinteractive.org/get-answers/medicare-covered-services/home-health-care-benefit-part-a-and-b/types-of-home-health-care-that-medicare-will-pay-for

Your loved one would need to qualify for other services, like skilled nursing to qualify for a bath aide.  But it is worth asking about, IMO. 

The hospice we use offers palliative care too. They charge $50 for a CNA to shower. I asked once when I thought that mom might be released from hospice.

Where I live, there was an agency that provided shower help for $49 per. (I say "was" because we stopped using them early 2017 prior to Dad's hospital stay and subsequent move to MC.) There is also a nice adult daycare nearby that offers shower assistance within the scope of the daycare services, which were reasonably priced (something like $50/4 hours).