My Mom (84) has been living with me for 6 months. While I totally agree with emjo's comment that "one should not make important decisions while under stress..., due to the effects of stress on thinking processes," it's really a Catch-22. I'm having to make all the decisions--for her (searching for independent living facilities that take Medicaid), for me and for my business which is suffering greatly. I'm on partial disability due to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (resulting from Thyroidectomy and fighting thyroid cancer for the last 20 yrs) & struggle with diminished cognitive function to begin with, so the process is extremely frustrating and slow. I've left messages at a local Medicaid Application Assistance office that are not returned, spoken to a social worker at another facility who says she's "new at this" and cannot answer most of my questions, and I've spent hours online trying to work through the Medicaid application maze on the website: Does she need an HCBS waiver? Can I complete the application online? Does she have to see her doctor first?
She still drives but shouldn't because she came home a few days ago with her headlight falling off and other damages to the car that she claims was the fault of a "hit and run" driver while she was parked in a parking lot. She's in denial about her dementia and many other issues. I have no help from my family, mostly because of her strained relationships with my siblings: 2 sisters and 1 brother. She has been asked/forced to move out of the last 3 places she's lived for various reasons that I won't go into here. Suffice it to say, I am her last resort and I cannot work from home AND take care of her needs (and those of other family members that I help) and be successful and keep my sanity. ANY advice would be appreciated.