My mother is being discharged from rehab/nursing center in two weeks time. I'm the healthcare POA, although I don't want to be. My sisters and my mother are expecting me to find 24 hr. in-home care for her at an affordable price. I've called and it's going to cost $205 per day. My brother wants her to stay at a facility because her money will last longer and her home isn't set up for a disabled person. If I do what my mother and sisters wants, Mother's money will be gone in a little over a year and she'll probably end up in a bad nursing home. So now that my sisters have found out how much it costs, they say mother can stay by herself during the day. She's 90, has dementia, and balance problems, etc. Previously, we had all agreed she would NEVER live alone again, but they're back off that now.
I'm the youngest, and the most stupid one in the family, so why am I having to make these decisions alone and try to please everyone? I thought the folks at the rehab center would help, but the "Discharge Care Plan" meeting is only going to last 15 to 30 minutes. That's not enough time for them to help me figure out what's best for money.
I'm all alone in this and don't know where to turn or what to do. I need help making these decisions and no one agrees about anything and no one will help.