Hi everyone.

I am the caretaker for my grandparents in the Chicagoland area. I have been at it for several years now, but I am 33 and my role of caretaker came on suddenly, though not entirely as a surprise. My Grandparents are 88 and 86, with differing and evolving levels of care.

Up until this point, I have simply been cooking, cleaning, corresponding with doctors, shopping, performing minor physical rehab, and working with one who has a touch and go case of dementia (can care for herself one day, and has no idea how to turn a shower on the next.)

It has taken a massive toll on me physically and psychologically at a younger age, and as a result it has been difficult to remove myself from day-to-day operations enough to properly research care alternatives so they don't have to end up in a nursing home, which is of course what they've expressly asked. Though one day in the not too distant future, that may become the case.

For the mean time, they just moved to a smaller, safer place (geriatric-friendly bathrooms, no steps, etc.) and the lease is 18 months, so they'll be there for a solid period of time.

I am totally lost on this because I don't know a single person my age who is having to care or coordinate care on any level like this, so I don't know who to ask or where to go when it comes to my title question: How do I find an independent caretaker, and for that matter where, who is not simply an agent of one of the few home-visiting services such as visiting angels, etc or one of the "big box" home care provider services??

Thank you for any help you may be able to offer!!

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Talk to the area on aging. Ask at church, research charitable organizations and ask them. Jewish family services, catholic charities and such. These would be where I would start.

Best of luck finding someone that is the perfect fit.

I recommend to do the payments through a payroll service if you don't use an agency. They will make sure that all of the proper taxes and insurances are in place and it doesn't effect future public assistance like under the table pay would. It simplifies the process to a time sheet per pay period and a check to them that covers everything, some are big enough to offer health insurance to your employees.
Helpful Answer (1)

Are you thinking of paying independent under the table? Don't do that if not setup properly with caregiver agreement Medicaid could be jeopardized. Call the Area Agency on Aging.

And you are right, you are too young to have this responsibility placed on you. How did that happen? You need to live your life.
Helpful Answer (0)

Good on you for helping with your grandparents' care, but also good on you for trying to get out from under the burden.

Why do you want an "independent" caregiver? I ask because I don't think people who work for agencies or services are necessarily bad. They are many advantages to having the caregiver be someone who works for an agency or service.
Helpful Answer (0)
I think it is the expense that turns most people off. If I have to pay 25.00 an hour, I would like the actual worker to get more than minimum wage.
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter