My dad lives in AL, I'm in IL. He's 85 and just suffered the tragic and sudden loss of his spouse. He has 'given' his cleaning lady, whom he adores but has known for 6 months, all my step-mom's clothes, jewelry, and many family heirlooms. He says it's because she cares about him and has been so helpful. I learned she and her husband were going to be stopping by to go through his holiday decorations and take what they wanted. What 'normal' person does this?? My dad seems to be in his right mind, but is older and grieving. He is in no mental or emotional state to be making that kind of decision. She's certainly taking advantage of the situation; has she crossed the line? What do I do?? I called the Jefferson County Office Of Senior Citizens Services, and they referred me to the legal services department. The legal services dept. said I have to create an intake file before they even talk with me. I don't want to alienate myself from my dad, so that doesn't seem to be the best course of action at this time. Please -- any input is greatly appreciated.