In a nursing home? Or Alzheimers/Dementia place? I have a Mother who has Dementia she is also 86 I feel the same way to leave her in a strange place with people she don't even know I would think it would be scary for her. It wold be for me if i was like that. I didn't like the Idea ether so I took care of her all by myself the rest of her kids didn't care only about themselves. When she could talk she told me she would die without me to look after her and care about her she told me she tries to be strong she hated the way she is. She was crying. I did it as long as I could which was like 5years before she got to I could handle it alone . So everyone tell me this? what do you do with someone you love so much that you have to put them in a "Nursing Home" because you can't afford to put her in a proper place where is belongs? I had no choice here in this town the Nursing homes are ALL BAD most of them ALL. My mother almost died do to Nursing Home Neglect! like 4 times I have to move her in another one she ended up in ICU because of it. She did not deserve that. They charge way to much to put her in a memory loss place like an Alzheimer's Dementia place. I went through a lot all alone Nobody cared or wanted to help my mother or me. I had a hard time finding a nursing home that there was an opening to put her in cause I needed a brake I was Not mentally or physically well after taking care of her, as much as I love my Mother. From what I know most can NOT be trusted you have to be there on and off to see how she really is like at least 3 times a week. These people with Memory loss need to be in a proper place for memory loss. Not a Nursing home ether. And to me whether they can afford it or not the Government should give them the care they need not just because of the age but because they were a Mother and or Father at one time they all deserve the Very best care! My mother is sad to say she is In a nursing home. And she is Not getting the proper care she needs. I finally found one that she is doing ok in, but to me its like being in a (Concentration Camp) . I hate that she is there but I just can't do it all alone anymore. They all tell you shes doing fine great the Nursing homes but they Lie she was not.