Father has cancer however undiagnosed. , bedridden at home. refuses hospice. mother seems to have undiagnosed dementia. She takes care of him but their fights have become increasing violent. He will not eat and she is angry about it and they have violent fights at nights.Neither contest to illness. Palliative is coming in this week but what are suggestions. My sister is trying to manager it all and scared. I want us to move to nursing home but that is hard and how do you do that???
If so, he really needs to be protected from his wife. Your sister could call his doctor and explain to the doc what was going on and ask the doc to write an order to have your dad move to a nursing home, asap.
You said your dad would not eat. He would not eat at all or just sometimes? How long has it been?