I look after my Mother who is in her early nineties and has very poor sight and heart problems. My husband and I moved here to look after her and also because at the time, she was a great help to me. My husband has always been fond of alcohol and with two small children, he wasn't pulling his weight. I needed surgery and it was my Mom who was there for me and helped me with the children and with my post-op recovery. But then her needs got greater and now she is deaf can't see and is needing my input all the time. Husband spends every spare minute out at bars and comes in drunk every night. Mum is trying to get me to throw him out. I feel so torn. I know he is unhappy too but he is now at the stage where he has quit his job without warning me first he would do that, also he is in with a drunken circle of single alcoholic friends at the bars and they are persuading him to leave me and he's talking about moving to Spain. We have two teenagers and I don't know what to do or where to start. He won't discuss anything with me just says he is waiting for me to throw him out so he can live his own life. Can anyone help me sort this mess out. I don't know what I can do. He turns his back to me whenever I try and ask him to open up about how he feels. He has always said he liked living with my Mom but I think he has lied so as not to hurt me and the resentment has built up. What should I do next? I can't see the way ahead.