Looking for anyone in a similar situation. Long Story short. My mom is 71 and has never taken care of herself. She relies on my step dad for everything. He is 80, and over the last year has become almost unable to care for her. She is mean and abusive, refusing even letting him check her blood sugar or put the blood pressure cuff on her. She lives by her own rules and does whatever the Hell she wants. She is always right and will not accept any opinions. Fast forward to December, she had a stroke (because she doesn’t take her blood pressure consistently) and spend almost three weeks in hospital/skilled nursing. Like most places, she left there in bad terms because of her attitude and my step dad's weakness and enabling behavior. I told her in December if she didn’t take her medicine and caused this again, my sisters and I would be putting her in assisted living. She said she turned over a new leaf. New mom. New plan. She wasn’t even home 24 hours before she refused medicines, eating right etc. two weeks ago she was back in the hospital. I had had enough. And my step dad said he had too. In the span on one week I had found them a really nice assisted living place. They moved in last Tuesday and are so enraged, they won’t speak to us. My step dad totally threw us under the bus. Even though it was his idea. They are saying they are being held against their will etc.
My question is: when if at all will they adjust? The nurses have already had to call us twice because of their attitude. We have no solutions but for them to go to their house and die (for lack of a better word). We are so scared they will get kicked out, we aren’t even selling or touching their house for three months in case they have to go back.
Anyone out there have any words of encouragement???